Author: Ashley Mealey

  • Important Lessons I’ve Learned While Teaching in Thailand

    Important Lessons I’ve Learned While Teaching in Thailand

    In this post, teacher becomes student as I share with you some valuable lessons I have learned while teaching English to 145 second grade Thai students in my little province of Pathum Thani. The beauty of diving head first into the unknown is that you will not be able to resurface without having gleaned at least a little bit of knowledge and understanding of what exists outside of your comfort zone.

    During my mere three and a half months of teaching in Thailand, I have encountered a consistent wave of non-stop learning — and I am all the better for it. These lessons have varied in their importance and their impact, but they have all played a role in both helping me understand a culture different from my own, and helping me gain a better understanding of myself.

    I’ve whittled away at my laundry list of lessons to create a shortlist of some of the most important takeaways teaching English in Thailand has taught me so far (let’s be real, this country still has so much more to teach me).

    Here are four takeaways teaching English in Thailand has taught me:

    A Thai performer plays with fire on a beach.
    Testing my patience as a Thai performer plays with fire in my general vicinity.

    1. Though my patience in America may have been above average, it definitely still has room to grow.

    I have always believed that patience is one of the most important and commendable characteristics someone can possess. This belief has helped me strive toward a deeper sense of tolerance in the face of anything from minor irritations to serious frustrations. That being said, when life throws you curveball after curveball, it’s easy to let your patience wear down.

    Since coming to Thailand, I have realized that it is so much more beneficial to let those curveballs build your patience instead of break it down. Arguably, the most important skill to possess as an ESL teacher is patience — especially when your audience is a crowd of rowdy seven year-olds who either talk too much or won’t talk at all.

    After realizing how particularly vital this skill is to thriving as an English teacher in Thailand, I have been able to show an even more heightened sense of poise in the face of any trials or tribulations. It may seem like a tall order to expand your patience, but it becomes doable once you remember that you are a guest in this culture, and that having a short temper will not actually change anything. So, you may as well accept what you can’t change and be happy. Unsurprisingly, this newfound composure has helped me brace for challenges both inside and outside of the classroom.

    Beautiful golden statues of Buddha in Thailand.
    It’s hard not to stay positive in Thailand with these beautiful golden Buddhas as inspiration.

    2.  The value of positivity is vastly underrated.

    Wherever you may find yourself in life, you will encounter negativity. This is an unavoidable and unfortunate truth. However, the impact this negativity has on you wholly depends on your perception of it. Unfortunately, on my very first day on the job here, I quickly learned that the first coworker I had encountered had a chip on his shoulder regarding the school itself and frankly all things Thailand.

    Having just been displaced from my comfortable first month in Chiang Mai surrounded by over 20 other Americans, to be plopped in a little village where I knew no one, was intimidating and scary and frankly had me questioning whether I had made the right decision in coming to teach in Thailand. This vulnerability opened me up to a heightened susceptibility to fall victim to negativity. Without knowing anyone or anything about this town, it was easy to let this abrasive coworker influence my time here in a less than ideal way. Luckily, I soon realized that filtering out toxic animosity would make me so much happier.

    As I was struggling to get a hold on my culture shock, I quickly recognized that I would only come out of the rough patch if I looked at my new placement with rose-colored glasses. If you begin to look at a difficult situation with a positive outlook, it truly becomes a positive experience – fake it till you make it. Having banished this negativity, I can happily say I’m genuinely enjoying my Thai adventure, and I now have a meaningful lesson on the importance of positivity to carry with me wherever I may end up in the future.

    Friends snorkeling in Thailand.
    Never forgetting to smile, even underwater.

    3. Smile.

    Impressions are so important, especially in the land of smiles. I have always tried to emit friendly vibes and possess an approachable demeanor, and luckily Thailand rewards this mindset. I’m a foreigner in a little town of Thailand where the majority of people speak little to no English. It is inevitable that I am under a microscope nearly 24/7. I’d rather not be caught frowning under this magnifying glass, so I’ve found it’s best to always be upbeat.

    Of course I’m bound to have a day or two where I feel sad or tired or annoyed, but I will still slap a smile on my face, greet my Thai teachers, and crank up the energy for my students. Thailand places a lot of value on appearances (in the sense that it’s not really acceptable to look like a cranky curmudgeon).

    It’s pretty simple actually — be amiable and be respectful, and you’ll experience the same pleasantries in return.

    Eating a green pastry in Thailand.
    Accepting the unknown as I bite into an unidentified neon green pastry.

    4. Accept the unknown.

    This point is actually so important in terms of Thai culture. Leave behind everything you may be used to or may expect because, chances are, it will be different here. But this uncertainty makes the experience all the more exciting. Whether it be a result of Thai time, communication barriers, or differing values, you will often feel confused or out of control here. Western culture tends to favor being (or at least feeling) in control of any given situation, which is by no means a bad thing — it just certainly does not align with Thai culture.

    The aforementioned “Thai time” is a concept that believes time is more of a suggestion than a set standard to which we should all adhere. Buses will run late. Students will show up to class late. Technicians will take two weeks to fix your computer instead of the promised three days. This laissez-faire belief that things will get done when they get done urges people (Westerners in particular) to release the ironclad grasp they have on their need to be in control.

    In my teaching role, this factor of the “unknown” is especially prevalent. I’ve been told I had to report to school on a Saturday at 7:30 am , only finding out at 3:30 pm the day before. I’ve been told on a Tuesday that all of my lessons for that Friday (a day that I meet with all five of my classes) will be cancelled.

    In Thailand, you may also run into uncertainty when faced with a need to converse with a Thai who knows minimal English. Have I eaten unidentifiable food due to a miscommunication in my order? Definitely — and on numerous occasions. However, once I came to accept these unknowns, I was liberated. I will not know nor will I always understand everything that happens in Thailand (or anywhere else in the world for that matter), but I’ve realized how freeing it is to let go of needing all the answers. This release of control allows Thailand to take me where it may and teach me a thing or two in the process.

    A English teacher in a classroom in Thailand.
    Looking like a teacher, but actually doubling as a student myself.

    By the end of this post you’re probably wondering how I’m the teacher when Thailand seems to be doing all the teaching. The beauty of taking the plunge and coming to Thailand to teach English is that I’m achieving a sense of fulfillment by teaching young Thai students. But, in learning a new culture, I’m also achieving a sense of fulfillment by learning a lot about myself. Here’s to 2017 and looking forward to learning all that it has in store for me.

     

    About the author:

    Rachel is a native Chicagoan who recently graduated from Indiana University – Bloomington with a degree in Journalism and Spanish. After studying abroad in Seville, Spain and traveling throughout Europe during her time there, she was pleased to discover she had been bitten by the travel bug. She’s currently teaching English in Thailand to help sate her desire to discover new people, places, and cultures. You can follow her journey through her personal blog – Embellishing the Everyday.

    Heading to teach in Thailand? Here are five phrases to know before you go! 

  • 5 Phrases To Know Before Heading to Thailand

    5 Phrases To Know Before Heading to Thailand

    Welcome to your own personal Thai language lesson with Teacher Rachel! What follows is a breakdown of five important phrases to know before embarking on your teach in Thailand adventure. It is my own personal belief that it is not only important, but also shows respect to learn these basic phrases in the native language wherever you plan to travel. To preface this post, I must warn you that expressions such as “hello” and “thank you” are not included.

    1. Ka/krub (rhymes with ha/scrub) – This tiny little syllable is vital if you want to show respect and appreciation when you come to Thailand. If you’re a female, you say “ka” and if you’re a male, you say “krub”. It is basically the universal word for ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, and all politeness in general tied into one. It may sound a little like a hiccup, but please embrace it anyway. All you have to do is add it onto the end of any sentence or phrase here, and it’s like your own little formula to acceptance.

    2. Gin kow reu yang? – In Thailand, it is not uncommon to be greeted by this phrase which means, “Have you eaten yet?” I actually just recently had firsthand experience with this during an exchange with a Thai teacher at my school. The moment I entered the teacher office at 7:30 am, the first thing my HOD (Head of Department) asked me was if I had eaten breakfast yet.

    This may seem like an odd way to greet someone in your home country, but Thais take their cuisine very seriously, and rightfully so — they’re killing the culinary game! You simply respond with “chai” (yes) or “mai chai” (no — which may lead to an impromptu meal). Here, they equate food to happiness and health, so it makes sense that they want to ensure you have a full stomach when they see you.

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    3. Sanuk (sanook) – This word means “fun”, but it’s more so seen as a concept than simply a word. While Thais use this word literally to say the word “fun” in any given sentence, it also serves as an overarching idea. Don’t get bogged down by trivial nonsense that makes you unhappy. Get out there and enjoy yourself! And what better place to do so than in beautiful Thailand?

    A lot of times the “Western way” of doing things disregards the notion of genuine happiness to make way for the concept of being successful and wealthy in a cutthroat world. In Thailand, it’s not like you’re discouraged from being successful, but Thai people also greatly value happiness and a good time. It’s so refreshing to be in a place that encourages smiles and laughter and good-old fun as a way of life.

    4. Mai ped – This little phrase means “not spicy”. It’s especially important to know for those who do not handle spice well because often, even when you say ‘mai ped’, many foreigners would still consider the dish to be spicy.

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    Farangs, a harmless term used in Thailand to describe foreigners (this bullet point is a two-for-one), generally can’t handle Thai level spiciness very well. I can sympathize with Thais for not understanding the intricacies of foreigners’ threshold for spice. It’s like when my mom tells me something is spicy, and my taste buds are actually incapable of detecting one ounce of heat.

    You can try to tell me you like spicy food and that you are ready to handle anything Thailand has to serve you, but just know that I warned you. I like spicy food just as much as the next person. But, let me tell you, you will understand the importance of this phrase once you have tasted a particularly hot tom yum (spicy soup) or an intensely spiced som tam (papaya salad).

    5. Mai pen rai – I’ve noticed that most cultures tend to have their own little mantras that signify “relax” or “no worries”. In Spain it’s “no pasa nada”, in The Lion King it’s “hakuna matata”, and in Thailand it’s “mai pen rai”. It literally translates to “it doesn’t matter”, so it’s definitely handy to know this ~go with the flow~ phrase as you venture outside of your comfort zone in a completely new place.

    I can assure you that after having just moved to my new placement, alone, in a town with minimal English, the culture shock is starting to set in. But not to fret, ‘mai pen rai’ is basically the antidote for culture shock.

    I know that it may be a bit of a challenge for me right now adjusting to my new life, but I also know that it will get better. So, I repeat this ‘mai pen rai’ chant in my head in the midst of a difficult class or in a taxi ride during which the driver gets lost five times. And it serves as a reminder that being in Thailand and experiencing its beauty and culture makes all those trivial little bumps in the road during the journey simply “not matter”.

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    Squatty potty – So, technically, this phrase is not Thai, but it is an essential concept you must become familiar with if you plan on visiting, teaching, or living in Thailand. Toilets here are different — in many ways. You may be lucky enough to encounter a toilet you’re used to. But, you will also probably find that said toilet is not accompanied by toilet paper. Instead it comes with a “bum gun”, which is basically the same concept as a bidet. It looks like the spray nozzle next to your kitchen sink that you use to wash off stubborn food remnants.

    However, what you will also run into if you are in Thailand for an extended period of time is a “toilet” that can be described as a glorified hole in the ground. As such, you must squat as low to the “toilet” as possible, and “flush” by scooping water out of the basin next to the ‘toilet’ with the provided pot. Next, you must pour said water into the ‘toilet’. Accept it and embrace it, but this time I will add the disclaimer that I’m crossing my fingers that you do not have severe knee problems or something like that.

    There you have it — a handful of important phrases to keep in mind before beginning your adventure in Thailand.

    Are you ready to embrace the unknown and enjoy the little discoveries you make as you navigate a new culture?

     

    About the author:

    Rachel is a native Chicagoan who recently graduated from Indiana University – Bloomington with a degree in Journalism and Spanish. After studying abroad in Seville, Spain and traveling throughout Europe during her time there, she was pleased to discover she had been bitten by the travel bug. She’s currently teaching English in Thailand to help sate her desire to discover new people, places, and cultures. You can follow her journey through her personal blog – Embellishing the Everyday.